Thanks, guys. I feel a lot better about this after having a lot of helpful input on it. I guess I just want to tell her that I can't be "friends" the way that we've been. I will clarify that this doesn't mean that I won't be here if she absolutely needs me -- say, a family emergency or money troubles. I can still help her out (to an extent, of course -- she can't be a mooch or anything). I will also clarify that this doesn't mean that I'm turning my back on us completely. I will still hold "us" open as a possibility. I'm just going to give us some space so that I can work on me and so she can figure out what she really wants to do. This is something that we both need.
I do want to be compassionate and non-accusatory. Thanks, Gritter, for reminding me that she IS in a painful place, as hard as it is to see through her disrespectful behavior. I have a very strong feeling that the woman that I used to know and love is somewhere in there -- she's just buried under all of this nonsense. I've seen that woman come up from the murky depths a couple of times in the last few months, so that's why I know. This last conversation, it wasn't her. It was somebody else entirely.
