Did you expect your H to react this way or did you think he would take it that you're giving him what he said he wants?
Honestly, I wasn't sure. A couple months ago, I would have suspected that my letter could serve as a wake-up call but I didn't want to use it as a tactic. After him telling me he was only staying out of guilt last weekend, that sort of sent me over the edge and I realized that I couldn't do this anymore.
I thought there was a good chance, he'd take my letter as his "out". So I'm a little surprised at his reaction. Then again, I have thought at times that his anger and pain was clouding his better judgment, and that he truly wasn't "done".
Originally Posted By: jbnati
Is there anything he can do to "right the ship", so to speak?
Actions. Consistent effort. No more vacillating. He needs to sit me down and speak with strength and conviction. There is a way he can speak to me that will make me believe him but I'm not telling him how to do that...
Originally Posted By: jbnati
Are you done completely or are you just tired of the drama and walking on eggshells all the time?
I was prepared to be done after I gave him the letter. I have my book on abandonment and I'm still reading it so I'm preparing for the worst.
I am tired of the drama. It's two steps forward, two steps back and we're cycling faster now. One week it's good, then it's back to bombing, then days later, it's good. I don't want to live in the middle of a bad movie of the week. I want to get on with my life either with him or without him.
If this was the first time this had happened, I would be more patient but this is the last 3 strikes, so to speak.
Originally Posted By: jbnati
Do you think this would serve as a wake up call to your H?
It's possible but he's very angry. He send me another barrage of texts yesterday afternoon letting me know all the ways he's tried. It's like he's been keeping a journal -- "Reasons to Leave my Wife". Dates, incidents, etc.
Anyway, I really appreciate your input, jb. I only have one friend I talk to about this (as I've opted to keep it quiet for now) and I sincerely appreciate the support from you and the other posters on my thread so very much. ((())) to you all.
