Well following up on my quick question from earlier:
Got online to check my e-mail and WAW hits me up on chat. This is after basically no communication for a week.
Her tone, the things she was saying seemed kind of overtly positive. Things like "Thats a great place" "I hope you have a great birthday tomorrow" "Lots of great stuff to do in Town" "I hope you have a great time with your parents" etc.. She used my first name in an online chat. She never does that. I was pleasant but not exactly chatty. Short answers, positive but not really gushing with desire to chat it up with her. Then she ends it by saying 'nite nite' - something she used to say back when we were 'good' and if one of us was traveling.
As Denver's thread is titled: WTF?
I don't even want to read into it. But I'm confused by it and want to categorize it. Maybe it's my oncoming food coma, but that was an odd experience. Did I just get DB'd??
I'll let others comment b/c they probably have some more experience, but BF does this to me. He did it to me for months until I told him to move out b/c it got so confusing to me.
He ended up telling our MC that he knew he was confusing me and that he knew it must have bee hard on me.
Still don't know what that means, but sometimes with BF I think it's a boundary issue - a growing up issue - knowing how to behave around someone you hurt who is hurting. (And he's not always appropriate) and also the desire to have you see them in a good light. To kind of move things into a "we're good" place even before you're ready to go there.
It sounds like she's trying to establish a "new normal" for you guys - one of detached pleasantness - nothing wrong with that, just maybe not what you want.
And I don't think there's a lot to read into in terms of what she's saying. She's happily off to Europe and she's trying to leave things a little good between the two of you.
Maybe she's missing the times when (okay now I'm reading into it) you used to bid her farewell and she's reaching for that.
Again, you might want to look at what R you plan to have with her now - are you still going to be someone she can talk to? A friend?
