Originally Posted By: West
making each interaction a positive one, even in the case of infidelity that the other partner refuses to end.


We are not telling you to be nasty, vindictive or otherwise uncompassionate.

Your W is in a painful place and she is making the best decisions she feels she can.

You can detach while still loving her.

You can detach while still leaving the door open.

I (nor is anyone else) am not telling you to shut your W off completely and leave her.

If you have hope for a R there must be in your mind a path back to you.

It just doesn't involve your emotions and pain of being attached to her every up and down.

You can be kind even when detaching. It is hard because you WILL feel anger.

Do you see the difference from what you have perceived?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am