I hear you, I get it. NOT judging or telling you which is right or wrong.
I would surely be entertaining the same things you are.
I want to just make a small comment about the "Kids mourning losing what they thought you were"... which is partly a guilt trip AND partly you just being real...but I think we might want to
give him something to live UP TO, (as in, the formerly Cool involved dad he was)
rather than letting him off the hook with the
"guess you changed now, and so you are a loser (so go ahead and act the part)" story.
It also, ironically, makes it harder for him to try and come back, at least to the kids. Remember, at least vis a vis the kids Keep the Road Home, Paved and Smooth...
IOW, even if you are done being his w, which I get,
we all know and hope he at least returns to being a dad. SOME time with his kids would be better than what they're getting now.
So mention the good times and happy things the kids are doing and let him know he has a standing invite
and then maybe, you move on...
moving on does NOT equate to giving up but you DO have to move on Life.
Otherwise you're not detached from the ongoing train wreck. And you must detach my friend....
no healthy choice exists.
make sense?
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