Yeah, I understand. If you allow the feelings to subside you feel you may begin to think maybe it's not as bad as you really know it is. I know, it's too easy to just sweep it under the rug, and you know you can't do that, not after you've already been through it. Besides the emails and phone calls, are there other ways for ow to contact your H? Does she work or live near his work? Sometimes you can do on online search for someone. That's how I got the info on ow. I just felt I needed to know, although not everyone here would agree with becoming your own detective. vc
