I can see the anger. I don't blame you. I was angry and still do get angry sometimes, even though it's now a few years post bomb.
But that's interesting his friend called you.
As for giving up. Detaching and giving up are very different things. Detaching is what you to protect yourself. To heal. Giving up can happen either before or after you detach, but I can tell you that detachment will happen regardless.
When you step back and look at things, one thing you should know is that your husband is doing what he knows to do. I doubt seriously he enjoys causing you pain. Or living in pain. But I suspect he doens't know what else to do and even may believe that a divorce will be the thing he needs. It won't help and I suspect he knows that somewhere deep inside.
Hang in there. You have your doubts but you can always quit. I suggest you try detachment before you do. It's way easier if you detach first.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
