Hey Denver... You get lots of traffic and I am not on here much but I got an email to check this out and post my opinions (not sure why as you already sent the email) but lucky you get to hear it anyway
I think you email was from a guy...
by that I mean
that it felt very "this is how it's going to go"
I am not sure if this is the way you were before and so this is status quo or if you were a bit wishy washy before so this is a 180
but
I am not your wife
and
I gotta tell ya
I would tell you to pound sand
if you were really the prick you say you were for your marriage and you have only been at this 9 months and I got that letter...it wouldn't shock me into seeing what I lost, it would solidify my opinion of what I left
but
that is just me
which is neither here nor there in your situation
just remember that DBing is about the changes in YOU who YOU want to be
not who you want to be perceived as or who you wish you were
maybe you need the time to work more on yourself so you are less likely to be drawn into reacting with your wife
so your responses are not reactionary but responses from a place of loving care
just a different perspective
I started my new teaching job this week and something struck me in all our inservice classes (I am working at a Tribal school on a reservation) One of the tribal leaders said that being a Dakota is hard because every step you take is a prayer...
how beautiful huh?
so try thinking of every interaction as a prayer...not for a reconciled marriage but a prayer for the well-being and peacefulness of your wife's soul
