Denver - I thought your letter was great. I actually could copy it and change the names and send it to my H verbatim. I think the time to stop beating yourself up over the past has long sailed by and that you've given your W a lot of opportunities to work with you on your M - more than many others would have done.
I posted in your thread months ago and let you know how it feels from your W's perspective. And I can tell you from that same perspective that the letter you sent was beyond reasonable.
I think your attitude is very reasonable for the situation and while everything you've said or done isn't perfect, perfection can be vastly overrated. If the changes that you've sustained for the past nine months aren't sufficient for your W to take the chance at rebuilding your M, what else can you (or even should you) do?
But, this is just my opinion.
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
