If you were to read the situations that survived when there is an A, you will see that they cut off ALL contact with the OP. Some people switched jobs and some even moved away. They put the needs of the LBS first. Those are the ones that survive.
I couldn't agree with this more. If my H hadn't done this we would never have survived. My lack of confidence and ability to trust would have killed any chance, even if there had been an outside possibility my H was able to work with, but not be involved with, his previous A partner. I just don't see that as possible.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
