[quote=Starsky309 I think it all depends on whether they're being HONEST with you, and there really is no contact, but they're just struggling with withdrawal from OP; or,
They're LYING to you, and still in contact.
The types of things I would advise someone to do is DRAMATICALLY DIFFERENT in each case, which is why I'm such a strong proponent of "trust, but verify." Once you know for sure, you don't have to keep verifying, but at this stage, how can you even decide how to proceed without knowing if he's just b.s.'ing you with flowers and jewelry, or if these are sincere attempts to speak your LL and help you heal from his infidelity?
Starsky [/quote]
Hmm, I pretty much believe him that he is no longer in contact with her but I think he is lying about the extent of the R with her in the first place! This is my big stumbling block and it is making me want to run for the hills
