Just want to say that I think you are there. You have a plan in place to deal with your W that is RESPECTFUL and KIND to her while at the same time PROTECTS YOU and YOUR FEELINGS.
This is a hard place to get to.........you have to try it all the other ways first and see them fail before you calm down and start to look at yourself and the other people in your life differently.
Now that you are in this place, it is still hard work to stay there.
I hesitate to put words in Cat's mouth (forgive me Cat ) but I think what she is saying is that it might not take very much to knock you out of that healthy place you are in.
It happened to me once or twice and it happened as recently as this last Christmas......so it is just a word of caution that the "work" never stops......and it will become evident when you do start that next realationship
whether it is with your wife or with someone else.......
Cheers
~C
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
) but I think what she is saying is that it might not take very much to knock you out of that healthy place you are in.