He sends you flowers? That's weird...and apparently I know weird 'cuz I'm accused of it enough! Giving a gift on a special occasion like your birthday or Christmas, to me, shows civility. It shows the kids that adults can still respect and care for each other even though their R did not work out...no matter who f'd up! But flowers is kind of romantic and confusing. Weird.
Strangely enough, I know he never resolved his feelings for me but none of that matters now. He is the mailman as I like to tell others. I just try to not get personal and keep it civil for the sake of my kids.
It is odd to say the least.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi kat, you could take gift giving lessons from my H. He used to go overboard and buy expensive (but usually useful) things for me. I would feel guilty! No worries anymore, he doesn't buy gifts on all the normal things but every once in a while comes up with something little but nice for no reason. I think I like it.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I don't know if I want to keep up the gift giving or not. I was trying not to hurt his feeling but that is just me being nice. Oh well, consequences.
I think I am a good gift giver. I put thought into the gifts I buy. I don't want just a normal everyday gift. They don't need to cost a lot it is just the idea of knowing the person .
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
They are " from the kids" gifts. Only s18 has a job so they aren't rolling in dough! But yes that is an idea. Like I said earlier, I wasn't going to buy him anything that first Christmas and then the rest is history.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Again, I don't see anything wrong with buying little gifts at Christmas etc. I am probably in the minority here but I still believe on some level we are still family and always will be family. We're not the family we were before but I think it's right to show respect and caring in some small way. Now, it's easy to say and I know my M ended in a co-operative manner and others haven't. I respect those who just feel the hurt was too much and they can't. But, if it's possible to show our children that this is the way adults behave when life doesn't go their way, that's an invaluable lesson. Of course, there are other ways of showing that too. Anyway, just my thoughts on the matter.
All the kids are back to school. S18 started his first day at the actual college today! He already has 12 hours from his advance placement classes he took in high school so after his first semester he will be a sophmore. He said that everything sounded fun except maybe chemistry which is going to kick hiney. Well I suppose everyone needs one hard class to keep them working.
I had an organizer over for a couple of hours this weekend. I don't know how much is her and how much is me but my living room is looking neater except for the couple boxes that I need to donate or sell. I figured paying someone would get me started, so here I go.
I have been having terrible sleep the last week. Last night I kept tossing and turning over different writing ideas and sentences. I need to make myself set aside time just like homework to get these ideas out!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
