Thanks for your response. It makes a lot of sense. The funny thing is that my counselor (our ex couples counselor) does specialize in SFBT (could have fooled me). I have already ordered some of Michele's books and I will be waiting under I have read them completely before I take action. So far, things are very mellow at home and he is being very loving and affectionate. Its strange what forgiveness can do for a troubled household.
