Regarding the going out and not coming back till late is not me. I do go to college every Wednesday (6-10 pm) straight from work and w calls me before class I don't call her.
Hey SO,
I've read your thread and seen the advice you've been given. I don't intend to offer you any additional advice at this point though I do want to say that I think Tank and 25 have both given you some excellent suggestions.
I'm going to suggest you think hard about what 180's mean and have another look at what you wrote in the quote above. From what I can tell you've been at this for a long time and, as 25 has rightly pointed out, what you have been doing doesn't appear to be working.
I think it's important for all of us to act with integrity but when you respond to suggestions with 'that's not me', I think that's a perfect opportunity to recognize things you can do differently. In my opinion, always being so available to your W and draining any mystery from yourself by always taking her phone calls when she checks up on you (before classes!?)is not helping your situation.
Oh, and you might consider being less tolerant of listening to the 'I really miss OM' talk from her. Sounds like that would be a good 180 for you too.
