Okay, soccer, I did read through your last thread.
I see you are talking with Laurie, posting here working with a MC and reading lots of relationship books. This is normal, but it can be confusing when you get conflicting advice.
Laurie will not steer you wrong, so use us, the books and your MC for support and some brainstorming as needed. But as far as advice--choose Laurie's first. She knows exactly what to ask you and how to coach YOU to be your best solution detective. Her client is YOUR MARRIAGE. When ideas conflict or are confusing, go with what Laurie coached you.
Another tactic is... I know Laurie often asks questions that help YOU sort things out....so, ask yourself, what do I think Laurie would ask me right now. Ask yourself, is what you are doing bringing you closer together or is it pushing him further away (aka-- is he trying to spend time with you or is he avoiding you).
You have lots of hope, soccer. Take great care of yourself, and be confident in yourself, your goals and your marriage.
