E - It sounds like you're learning to get off his roller coaster and detach. I hope today's been relatively quiet for you. Hang in there! I'm in your corner.
I think 77 was pointing to a 180. It may not have to be that specifically, but it would be beneficial to mix things up.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
I feel like it's all up to me to keep the kid's worlds from falling apart. What a D will do to them is my biggest fear at this point. I think eventually, I would be okay but I don't want them to grow up fearing abandonment.
E, you can only do what you can do, because your H is going down his own journey. The fear abandonment can be a by-product of D. Continue DB'ing to the point where you can honestly look yourself in the mirror and look your kids in the eye and tell yourself and them you did everything humanly possible to save the M.
