Check out the meds, maybe you need them, maybe you don't but you need to find out.
You have said a lot of things that shows you can give advice to yourself...which is wonderful. But now you need to DO it.
"You must be the change you wish to see. - Mahatma Gandhi "
and
"The MC also teaches how to search deep to discover what you are really feeling about your partner and what you really expect of them, which I have also already done for myself. "
What IS it concretely? What do you expect and hope for, besides the hugs. In other words...when you feel the other part of your marriage, the 'complement' -- what are you doing and what are you say?
In DB, we talk ACTION. One action precipitates another. Change your actions, you change your partner's....and the feelings follow.
Maybe this is just a bad day, and if it is more ongoing, meds might help (haven't read thru all of your threads today), but this concerns me:
"But none of those things complete me as a person. H is my compliment and I am in great pain without his love."
If you feel this strongly, you are likely communicating this to your spouse in actions, body language and/or words. It is likely to push him away--make the situation worse, and with this--counseling together may make the situation worse.
The last thing you need, if your husband is pulling away from you is more conversation. You need someone who can help you determine ACTIONS that will attract him closer.
