I'm afraid that until you're willing to face this big elephant in the room, you're going to remain mostly STUCK. You have done a great job of managing (and improving) all of the other aspects of the relationship, but you're playing with fire and it's only going to be so long before your wife begins to (again) seek the missing passion elsewhere.
I get lulled into thinking things are fine because of the improvements I've made and in the R, and so I become complacent. As was suggested, I've yet to cross the finish line. I'm still pedaling and have one more hill to climb. It's time to shift gears again.
The masculine skills that need improvement are assertiveness and facing fear. I get motivated when I frame it as these areas I need to work on for myself and the R. When I frame it as I need to have sex with my W, fear and doubt creep in.
I think for now I need to Act As If I have these skills with my W. I'll look for opportunities to practice. I'll use the softer skills with her as-needed. I need to rebalance the portfolio to include more aggressive investments, expand the keyboard, or add a slider.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
