Telemark, I'm still catching up on your sitch and am about half way through so I can't really comment fully yet, but I just wanted to say that given the circumstances, I think you're handling this all with grace and dignity. (What you said to your wife about how you've both "been quick to anger" etc. was really poignant and brought a tear to my eye.)
Anyway, I'm also sorry about your SS21 having such a difficult time. It's heartbreaking when S or D affects the kids, no matter how old they are...
