Need Advice, Encouragement or Whatever (long)

[MHL]

The only caveat is how do I go about not allowing the OW to watch the kids when it's my wife's turn to have the kids? The only way that I see to do it is to do the custody/lawyer thing...which as you can see above, I do not want.

Contacting a lawyer does not mean you have to file. You just need to familiarize yourself with the law.

I think you have already protected yourself financially so that is good too.

As far as the OW watching the kids you may not have a choice in that. The only way around that is if the OW has a criminal record then you might be able to get a restraining order. Additionally, if there are drugs present in her home or she is a user then you can go down that avenue also with the proper authorities.

I would suggest taking a look at the situation first......

Is this OW really a threat or a bad person or might in some way hurt your children???? or is it more of YOUR issue?? meaning she is the reason for the break up of the family and therefore she is bad????

If the later is the case then you may want to consider biting your tongue on that one. Know that if you take any of the actions I suggest up there it would definitely come across as controlling and would definitely push your W further away.

However

If there is a real threat then YOU ARE DUTY BOUND AS THE RESPONSIBLE PARENT TO ACT ON BEHALF OF YOUR CHILDREN.....no matter the consequences to your marriage.

Hope this helps.

Cheers