Her email this morning was a slap in the face. I haven't done anything since I sent it. I do want an answer though. It's like having a sliver in your finger that you can't get out. You just want to pull the sliver... To stop the pain. I need to know if she is still involved with him.
I was encouraged by a good friend at work (who is in the middle of her own WAW situation). She is In the same situation at virtually the same stage as my wife and I. Her circumstances are very similar. The difference is she is the WAW. After her affair was revealed to her husband, he did all the thing we all have done, begging pleading etc. On Monday he told her that he Was going to call a real estate agent and move out to his sisters because he would not put up with her cheating. She admitted to me that his ultimatum caused her to take a hard look at what she had done and made her "wake up". She committed to him this week to try to work on their marriage. Now, every sitch is different, and they have a long difficult road before them, but they are on the Road. I can't even get out of the driveway. So, when she told me her "wake up" news, iI convinced me that I needed to do the same thing. After all that's all I want is, the opportunity to at least try. Believe me, talking to my frIend who is in this same sitch for the last 3 weeks, nothing I said to her got through (same results as with my wife). No matter what approach I tried. She needed the ultimatum to to wake up.
Also when I combine this knowledge with Sandis advice, and the results I noticed from my talk with my wife 2 weeks ago, it seems to me that what I am doing right now is not working I'm not getting through, and that there is evidence that I simply need to express my boundaries and lay out my expectations for my own sake. I have not been listening to my inner voice that has been telling me to not let her treat me this way. maybe it's time to do something different...
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
