So now that the proverbial shiat has hit the fan...
Let me see...
Did your W's complaints include controlling and judgemental?
Because I see that in your reaction to her sending you the SA.
I am sorry that she is continuing to follow this path, but if we are really honest, if you truly believe she is MLC, then you probably should have been expecting it, or something similar...
With MLC, the best plan is to expect the unexpected...
So what is your plan now?
Are you done, while filled with anger and frustration?
or...
Are you ready to really begin the work that will help you through this?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox