WTF?!?!

[Denver_2010]

Okay, I'm going to disagree here. A bit.

I would say that Denver is still missing the point. He said he wrote the letter in part to pressure her.

Uhhhh, as that her No. 1 complaint during the months of April, May, June, etc.? he was -- pressuring here.

So what does he do? Pressure her by his own admission. Now it's in a different form, but it's pressure none the less.

I think the dating think is a veiled threat. It may feel good but I don't think it helps your M at all especially in the future. I think the OW admission to her was to pressure her as well.

What's done is done, you know your situation, but I see a lot of the old Denver in that email. This could go one of 2 ways - I hope it gos the good way for your sake.

I'm not missing the point Harrier. But I'm also not trying to be coy with myself or any of you.

There are two parts to where I am at now.

1) It's been 9 months and I'm tired. I need to stop enabling my W to continue to sit on the fence. So yes, there is intended implied pressure. Yes, I hope that the fear that I really am trying to move on with my life and am opening myself up to the possibility of dating causes a reaction in her ... which in turn triggers a positive move by her.

BUT,

2) I really am at the point that I want to begin moving on. I am here still standing for my M and yes, I would still like to reconcile with my W... but I won't be here for her 12 months from now. And the process of getting used to life without my W needs to start for me now. It will be a process. I don't know how long it will take... but I am beginning that process.

So, that email is my truth... but I guess that it has two different meanings. Not sure if that makes sense.

Denver