Agree with Starsky, and I will say that while I suggested that your W is in MLC it does not change your words, your actions and how you handle yourself.
MLC aside for a moment.
If this is going on in your home, which I assume it is then you should not accept it.
Think of it differently.....what if it were a man she was lying with????
The fact that she is having an affair with a woman whether it is EA or PA it should not take place in your home.
Starsky is much better on the language that you could use but IMO, this demands a very firm response.......no anger mind you but firmness that comes with confidence........think of it as reprimanding a teenage child......
It actually is not that much different.
The other thing you have to do is deal with the fear that your marriage may be over.......do not shy away from what needs to be said..........
Your W may not like it....
She may throw a fit.....
BUT
She will respect it.....
I will try my best here but I think Starsky can come behind me with something better worded.
W, I have made a decision about what I will allow in my life and what I will allow in the lives of our children. You are having an affair with OW. I will not discuss it with you. IT IS A FACT. I cannot control what you do but I will not tolerate it in this house and DEFINITELY not in front of our children. If you must carry on this relationship with OW then do so outside this home.
Sorry, you are dealing with this. You have come to the right place for support.
I also agree that you need to contact a Lawyer ASAP!!!
Hope this helps.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
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