Can my blah blah blah?

[♪CS♪]

and I'm pretty clearly a therapy bill waiting to happen, so we'll keep it friendly

Hey girl. I haven't posted much (ever?) on your thread but I have watched. Mainly because I feel you are well rounded and doing very well.

^^^^ This cracked me up

But your follow up about being a great catch is even better. That's what makes me know you have your head on straight.

Work to improve every day.

Recognize all the GREAT things in your life.

And you will be a great catch for some guy. It might even be your H again.

But even if not.

YOU will be a success story.

Be well.

[a girl]

Thanks, Country. I do ok. I'm not sure what the future holds, but, you know, I'll be ok, either way.

[Endeavour]

I agree. You've been handling this all so well, a girl. You even have a sense of humour about it (so many of your posts have cracked me up!).

So many people on here inspire me to be a better person (and stop reacting so darn much), and you're one of them.

[a girl]

Feeling better today than I have since last Friday. Hoping for a good weekend.

Have decided to grab some boxes and pack up the remaining stuff H has left - except books that we need to divide up, everything else can just be tossed in a box. I was going to have him do it, but I've decided it's better for me to not have to spend 2 hours with him this Saturday while he does it - I'd rather just have it done.

[JustStunned]

I did this also, then she never came to pick it up. She's waiting to get it when she picks up the furniture and other large items. She'll need a truck and a couple of burly gentlemen.

I went back through one of the boxes a few weeks ago and took out the ref magnets from the National Parks we visited. They represent my memories also. If she wants them she'll have to ask for them again.

[KenF]

hi a girl,
i've been through this, and it does get better. a good sense of humor is very important.

i also had box issues. my x moved out but hadn't taken her boxes from the attic. took her 2 years, and lots of "i'll come get them next weeks" until she finally did.

and i felt a big difference afterwards. as if, now it was my place and she has no reason to come in. (and that was the last time she actually came in)

since then i've gone around my place and felt out all the areas that still give off negative vibes, that still had bad memories, and painted, replaced, moved and re-arranged until its now much more just mine.

the more ways you can clean out the negative, both physically and emotionally, the better you'll feel. boxing his things is an act of healing.

[a girl]

That's great input, guys. I have been sort of "waiting" until all his stuff is gone before I make changes. Honestly, I don't have lots of changes to make, but I do want to get some things on the walls (he took the paintings, which was fine with me).

I'm also looking forward to having more room in the bookcases - the kitchen is so much less cluttered now - it's actually really nice.

[Telemark]

When my W told me she was moving out, I told her I would not lift a finger to help her move. But that was anger talking. I ended up gathering the rest of her belongings that did not go with her on "moving day" and putting them in the corner of her old office (which is now my new office).

Like you said, it was easier to do that than to have her going through the house for several hours. Just get your things and be on your way, dearie...

Little by little, I'm taking ownership of the house. You will, too.

[KenF]

a bit spiteful on my part, but i had painted what was her bathroom and my bedroom before she took her stuff, and was happy she noticed. of course by that time the d had been finalized for 2 years.

[a girl]

Just got in - did happy hour with some friends from working (including the "friend") then did dinner with some different friends. All in all, fun evening.

Planning to head out for boxes tomorrow and then pack up most of H's stuff that's left. Ideally, it'll be what he takes tomorrow, then one more trip for "tools" during the week, and then all his crap should be out.