Denver, generally I am late to your threads, or miss an important aspect, so I either don’t post or what I post makes little sense. That said, I think this your email is on target. I read honesty and emotion in it. It isn’t how I would have said it and I read a little redundancy in it. I’ll not pick it apart. Communication from the shoulder often has redundancy.
That you want her to think is obvious, that you want her to respond positively is what all of us lurking want. IMO you’ve laid out a decision point for her. You’ve told her what you will commit to.
We’re told here early on not to pressure, and I agree with that for the most part and certainly early on in this dance. I also believe there comes a point where a decision has to be made by both, and the pressure of making that decision causes a cascade to whatever comes next.
The email is sent, the round is down range, all any of us can do is observe and prepare for what is next.
^^^^^ Everything that you just said JS. My intent was to put some implied pressure on her to make a move... without closing the door to remaining in my hellish limbo patiently waiting.
I just think that me patiently waiting without any fear whatsoever from her that there may be consequences to her taking advantage is merely enabling her to continue her 'vacation' from our M... from responsibility.
We'll see how it plays out. Admittedly, I am nervous about it.
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
