i did a good job not talking to her as she left last night so she could try and get a little more sleep.
she has been having braxton Hicks type contractions the last few days, and our 3 kid was born on week 31, she is 28 weeks along now. i know i cant talk too much about anything to her, but it feels pretty scary she doesnt have a plan still on where to live. if the baby comes out now what will she do? if the doctor orders bed rest? i know all of these things are not my issue, and nothing i can do about it except let her make her own choices, just hard to stand by and know im partly the cause of all of this and her not feeling comfortable.
i did ask her about retrouvaille as there is one coming up near us in mid Oct
we did briefly go back thru the last week, and rated the days 1-10 (1 being bad for her, 10 being a good day) for me discussing stuff, we marked them on a calendar. few things that were helpful for me on that... its either all or nothing for her, i ended up with 2 10's 1 9, 2 3's and a 2. so in the last 6 days 3 good 3 bad.
goals: i know these need to be more specific but rough idea so far
-no talking about baby daddy (fastest path to discussion) -aim for 3 consecutive 9 or 10 score days. -temper expectation, and notice any changes!! not just the ones i want to see! -show patience and understanding in any decision she makes, even if i dont agree. -compliment her for doing something, dont be critical how it was done or what she didnt do.
goals for myself: -study for certification 2 hours each day i work -get out of the house with kids, park/friends/family/anything -use the big red stop sign when my thoughts wander (i think waaaay to much, have a lot of time on my hands even with kids home it seems) -get the dryer moved into basement -get kids clothes hung up
