I feel like a failure, I will carry this stigma that I failed at marriage......I have always succeeded at everything ive done, but the most important thing in my life I failed miserably at.
Cam I will tell you everyone, EVERYONE here felt this way when they got here.
If you read the threads of the people who have been here for a while and have moved past the phase you are in now I think you will see what I am trying to tell you.
Are you gonna die on this hill son?
This hill is the one YOU are creating not your W and what she thinks, feels, says or does.
Why would you put your own self worth and happiness in the hands of someone who clearly does not place value on their own.
Not knocking your W she is making choices she thinks will make her happy instead of looking in the mirror she is choosing to blame you.
Don't buy what she is selling.
Do buy your own. You are accountable to the person in the mirror. Right now that guy doesn't like what he sees.
BUT
That guy is here and that is tremendous start Cam. Do you have the courage it takes to grow and move on from this?
How to start?
First forgive yourself.
Then ask yourself why?
Why did you let yourself make chooices or things happen that you did not want?
You failed yourself first. The consequence of which was your M faltered.
Your W failed too.
Tell me the good things about Cam. What you like and then what you aspire to be?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
