Kalni, My actions produced a positive outcome, whether it's masculine or not. There's no point in debating that issue.
My W and I eat out together 2-3X per week. We like to eat outside during the summer at restaurants. We both like ethnic food, so find restaurants that are casual in appearance, but still have great food, to keep it affordable. We were exercising together at our fitness center before the car accident. I'm trying to get her back on-track now that her wrist is better. We go to movies together usually 1-2X per month.
Dancing gives us a shared community, developing friendships, exercise, gets us out of the house, helps us grow as partners and individuals. In DB terms, don't fix what isn't broken, and do more of what seems to be working.
CL
CL, these are all great activities, and it's obvious that you and your wife have a good friendship. But unfortunately, all of this can also fall into "gay boyfriend" role if the other, "masculine" stuff isn't addressed, esp. in the bedroom.
I'm afraid that until you're willing to face this big elephant in the room, you're going to remain mostly STUCK. You have done a great job of managing (and improving) all of the other aspects of the relationship, but you're playing with fire and it's only going to be so long before your wife begins to (again) seek the missing passion elsewhere.
