hope you love her, cause you're stuck with her now

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Michelle..your exH is an idiot and yes, don't suppose it will last, but sort of nice of him to let you know, although cowardly to go through a mutual friend!

I had exs repeatedly lie and cheat on me in my 20's and I definetly had my barriers up when I met H, a thoroughly decent guy.. so for the first 5 years, I was the one wearing the trousers as essentially I was retaining control and not letting him in entirely.. looking back our R wasnt equal and so we werent able to be fully carefree and in love. We lived together but I dont think I mentally committed to him.. it took something bad in our R which shocked me before I could do that back around 2004.. and suddenly, the walls were down and the love I had for him was able to be fully expressed.

What I'm saying is, it kind of doesnt serve you, or your R to have that cautious lack of trust/faith, but I'm sure you will break past that wound and forget the past eventually, with the love of a decent man!