In the meantime, I'm really intent on detaching. I can't keep living my life constantly thinking about her and living in fear of what she's going to decide next in terms of our R.
You need to do better at this. It is very hard but you must remove yourself from the trauma that your emotions cause you because of your attachment to the relationship.
You will not be able to think clearly and do the work you need to do on yourself to heal and move forward until you do this.
which is why
Originally Posted By: West
I'm thinking very seriously about just going out on some casual dates during this time and really emotionally letting myself go from her.
I wouldn't recommend this ^^^^.
It is a crutch but worse because you involve someone else.
And it will distract you from your work.
This is a process West and you can't skip steps.
I wish you could.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
