really? no... reaaalllyy...?

[OnMyWay]

Agreed. Stop that. I do it, too, but it serves us no purpose.

You did good - u explained yourself clearly in a non-confrontational manner with regards to the party, got ur point across, and got a good response. I think that door will remain open for the future, which will be a positive for down the road.

However, ur W then tried to share something extra with u. While u may not agree, at least recognize that she did share. Communication will be required for your futures on behalf of the kids. Recognize it simply for that, see it as a positive (she could've told u nothing at all), set it aside and keep moving.