The gut honest truth here? Before I even posted this, the very first time this came up with my W, the reality is... I don't know if I would make it through the evening. Even an hour... Regardless if the IL's and my W's friends, were there.
Could I TRY? Sure, I could try.
I am 100% sure that I am not yet detached enough.
Look, this is good man. IF this is the case, you are 100% right in your decision. BUT... This also gives you a clear path for you. FIX this...
HOW? That is the ultimate question. We all have different ways. I'm not sure it is ever a finish line.
Like has been said so many times, it is a process not a destination. SO... At some point you feel ready for A. Then B. Then C... etc...
One step at a time. And BTW, I realize you have already walked MANY steps... But work within yourself. Honestly. And this is what I think you did here.
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I thought someone above said that my W's request sounded reasonable and I skimmed and can't find it.
I think this was me
And look, you did it again here... BUT YOU CAUGHT IT BELOW WHICH IS GREAT!!!!
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Let's blame the coach for D13's loss...
Like I said, you caught it, so I don't mean to harp on it, but come one man...
This is how SHE FEELS. That is all.
You may feel differently. And that is all.
And can I be frank here? I happen to agree with her!!!
Sure, what she did may be "medically acceptable," but this is a 13 year old girl. She isn't training for the Olympics. She isn't on a pro sports team. WAS she tired because of this? That kind of [censored] IMO.
So I understand you may feel different about it. And that is fine.
But understand your W's feelings are just looking out for the best interest of your D. Even if they differ from yours.
She loves her too!!!!!
Sooo.......
I've seen you post the same things to others I am saying to you now. UNDERSTAND HER. TRY to at least.
Like my W. She IS NOT some wacko here. BUT... Let me add. I had a similar thought today.
My W text me tonight. Blah blah blah about details (which is fine of course). And then... "Have fun on the boat! Be safe!!!"
First thought: "Well, we could have a nurse on board (her) and it would be a lot safer!"
I admit it. This is my first thought. But then.... We just have to let these thoughts pass.
It doesn't help.
I guess if I have a point at all....
Your W is NOT crazy. Bad decisions? YES!!!!
But not crazy.
So don't immediately jump there. It won't help in the end.
We don't NEED a bad guy to point to here.
Just a GOOD guy. And that should be us
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
