He asked us to describe our childhood and then bring forward the feelings to today.
My W described how she was always praised and appreciated and that she doesn't get the same in our M. I can understand why - I am distant at times at take many things she does for granted. She also said I was over-critical, not sure I agree 100% but I validated everything she said and would work on it.
He asked about me - I talked about being raised by a single parent (father) and that I often felt lonely and unloved. I have the same feelings in our M and that I felt isolated and not involved. My W validated and said she recognized how I would feel that way.
He then asked us how things were physically - well that let the cat out of the bag - W - "How can I feel intimate when I don't love him", "for years I felt unappreciated why should I give him any intamacy". This torrent of how for years I've not been available - so why should she now be available for me.
At the end of the session he asked her to be more intimate with me (hugs, touching etc.) - her response, "we'll see - I am not sure if that can happen".
I really don't think she'll want to go back - W is away next week and was talking in the car about how full the calendar is the following week.
M47 W45 D10 (Has CP) D7 M12 T14 ILYBINILWY 5/1/11 Asked for seperation 5/10/11 Seriously DBing 7/1/11 W admitted to 2 EA's on 11/3/11. Evidence of PA 11/5/11 - Definite evidence of PA 11/20/11 D - Final 7/11/12
