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[Valeska19]

girl007

I agree with cat's statement.
"It is part of the process of where you are."

I find myself in exact place you are.. but how are you going to handle it??

I'm assuming that you saying "snapped" means you either yelled or got mad.

Ok.. so you got your point across. Here's my question. Was it loving?

I 100% agree that you stick up for yourself and stop the games, but there are SOO many ways to do that. Is being harsh the way you really wanted to handle it? Do you think it worked?

My sister clunked me over the head with a 2x4 today, but I will only use a ruler because my I know this is easier said than done.

The only way for you to change how your h treats you is for YOU to stop it. And in some ways, this has nothing to do with words and everything to do with actions.

I'm trying to break the cycle of abuse between my w and I. This is what I have learned thus far.

1. She hears nothing I say.
2. She now perceives my actions as something else.
3. The more I try to break the cycle, the more she pushes to keep it the same.

I'm not saying you are being abused and I'm surely not saying your h is my w. I'm only saying that I take my w out of the equation (super difficult btw) and ask myself.. Who to I want to be in this situation? I do my best to have each interaction with her with my best foot forward because that's who i want to be. Her words and her actions no longer control me and who I am. And you know what.. sometimes i FAIL miserably, but when it works, it's great because I am now loving MYSELF.

Remember when I asked if it was loving? You should show love to your h (which IS DIFFERENT to being a doormat).

Why?

1) Because God showed us unconditional love when we are so unlovable

2) Because a loving person is WAY more awesome than being a spiteful person.

Enjoy your bath.