I tap out...

[thatgirl007]

Just spoke with H. I think I was just the harshest I have ever been to him in my entire life and it wasn't even about me or how he's treating me exactly. Maybe my frustrations are finally starting to show.

But we were talking about business stuff again and he was being fatalistic again, complaining to me...even starting singing a complaint song. All of this makes me feel guilty and he knows it, but I'm done with being made to feel guilty when I actually shouldn't. He made the decision to buy the business. He made the decision to quit his job and work full-time on the business, instead of hiring part-timers to do it. He made the menu decisions, it's HIS business. The only thing that I did was mention that the business was for sale in passing conversation. I only provided 25% of the startup costs when he asked me and when we were supposedly "reconciling".

I've explained to him repeatedly that the business is especially slow in August and then kicks into full gear in the Fall. Again and again. I've offered up ideas for marketing, etc. I think he wants me to just take responsibility and DO everything.

I finally just snapped and told him that he needed to DO something if he wants the business to be a success. I told him that he needs to contact the director about marketing opportunities that I've mentioned repeatedly, that he needs to hire a guy for a day to put flyers with coupons on cars, that he needs to put invest in local advertising, that nothing is going to happen unless he DOES something...and that the time he spend on YouTube waiting for customers or texting his "new friends" that "I don't know", could be better spent pursuing marketing opportunities, designing flyers, bookmarks, coupons, FB ads, tweeting or 4-squaring for the business...or SOMETHING. And then I got up from my desk and left him standing there.

I've never done anything like that before in the 14 years I've known him.