I thought someone above said that my W's request sounded reasonable and I skimmed and can't find it.

Yes, it did sound reasonable.

I responded with what I wrote above, no change.

My W responded back with...

"That's fine. I just wanted to extend the invitation ........ I'll let her know."

And then... we get a glimpse of who this person still is, regarding to D13's first match results:

"D13 just texted me and told me that she lost her first (match). They actually stopped it because she was too tired. Serves (coach) right for her massive weight loss. She ended up losing 9 lbs. Went from 117 to 108. I will let him know that this will NEVER happen again."

hmmmm...

Let's blame the coach for D13's loss...

She fought, she lost... What the coach did to put her into a different weight class is standard stuff. Not going to affect D13 due to her metabolic stamina. BTW: The weight loss was generated through a hydration / dehydration method. Medically acceptable.

No matter anyone's opinion on the coach or the potential for physical harm through weight loss... the point is...

My W continues to live the blame game... and no matter HOW reasonable she might sound, now and then... this is who she is... right now... blame, blame, blame...