I notice that there are times when you do not respond to your W's last texts in a TM conversation.
Why?
Do you think it would be wrong, or weak, to say (using the last one as an example):
W: "I know. So frustrating!"
DENVER: "I'm sure it is. Good luck with it; talk to you later."
Or words to that effect. This way you've acknowledged her comment, you've controlled the conversation by ending it when you want to end it and you don't appear to be rude or aloof.
If you were texting anyone else you wouldn't just leave them hanging, would you?
I know how it feels to want to remain connected to your W; I still look at my phone several times a day to see if my W has sent anything. And of course, she hasn't.
But I'm learning to be OK with that. And when we do text/e-mail/talk, I talk to her like I would to any other friend; because right now that is all that we are; that is all we can be at this point.
Try to think of your W as a friend when you communicate with her. It will take effort at first, but I think the rewards will be worth it for both of you.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
