I am new to this forum, but I have been doing alot of reading here in the last couple days.
A little background here:
I have been married 3 years this past August. On Valentines Day (2008) my husband proposed to me. Then in July (2008) I found out I was pregnant. So we sent the date in August (2008). Had a great honeymoon, with the exception of morning sickness. I had morning sickness for about 3 months, everyday, all day. Well, my husband left his email open and I decided to snoop. I know it wasn't right. Anyways, I found an email to his ex-firlfriend talking about me. I confronted him with it and he said he would not email her again. Well, a week or two later, I found another email to her from him. So, he lied to me. Well, I tried to move on, but it was hard because I didn't know if I could believe anything he said after that. Well, I gave birth to baby girl in February 2009. He decided to take a couple weeks off to help me. One day he received a text message from a co-worker. And I read it. It said, I miss you and I love you. I confronted him with that and he said it was nothing. Well, he decided to switch jobs because the one that he was in was too stressful for him. When he switched jobs, then we were on totally different schedules. We never spent any time together. June (2010) one night I was playing with him about his cell phone. He got really mad and jerked it right out of my hand. So I thought that was odd. So the next day I pulled up our cell phone records on line and discovered he was texting a female co-worker 100 times a day for 3 months. I confronted him about the text messages to the same number. He told me it was all business. Well the next day, he was in the shower and his cell phone was laying right there. I decided to check his text messages and sure enough, what did I find. More text messages to that same number. And the text messages was not business at all, if you know what I mean. After he got out the shower I asked him when he switched departments (he is a nurse) and he looked at me like I was crazy. I told him that I read the text messages and he looked me right in the face and lied to me. A day later he told me that he was moving out. Well he did. He was gone for about 3 weeks. And in that 3 weeks period, he would not have anything to do with me, but he was in constant contact with her. She is married with 3 small kids of her own. Well, he moved back in after 3 weeks and said that he would never text her again. He didn't because I kept checking the cell phone records. But they still worked together. Well, an opportunity came up for him to transfer to another department. That meant leaving the hospital where he was working at. I thought it would be great and we could start over. Well, I found out that he started to talk to another female about our marital problems. I confronted him about that and he told me that since he could not talk to me about our problems then he needed some one to talk too. Oh, BTW, we did counciling for a looonnnggg time. The councilor did not help us. I believe she only hurt us. Well, this past July, he asked me for a divorce. I told him know. That he wanted the easy way out. That he needed to stay and we need to work on this. He said that he needed a private life me. That meant he wanted to be able to text or facebook anyone he wanted too and I should trust him. Well, we have been separated for 5 weeks now. We meant for drinks a couple weeks ago and he told me he still wanted the divorce and that he hated me and could not stand to see me. I suggested we live apart for awhile and start over. That meant dating and being friends all over. He said he could not think about that right now. That he needed to focus on our daughter and himself. I understand that, but why does he got to cut me off completely? I am giving him his space because I am hoping that with enough time, he will see that he loves and misses me. I still love him very much. Do you think that I still have hope with him? Any advice right now would be great.
