Treading water - time and patience

[sandi2]

Right here, Peter, is where you blew it....and you knew it and yet you just kept pressing.

Me - "Great - I really want to do it again some time".

W - Doesn't say anything for a while.

That was a trick, and you knew exactly what you were trying to get from her. You didn't ask her a direct question and I know you are smart enough to know that when a person does not respond to what you've said.....that's your sign to shut up!

But, you didn't shut up. She was trying to avoid that little snare you had set, but when she didn't respond, you went after it.

Me - "Does that mean you don't"

W - "I'm not sure".

She's trying to stay out of another R talk. But you keep on.

Me - "I don't understand why if you had a good time you wouldn't want to do it again"

W - "I don't know"

Second answer to you saying she doesn't know, or not sure.

If you had stopped at this point, it might have still not made a dark spot on the evening together.

Me - "Where is this going, I don't get it"

You are the only person who can control Peter. Saying that you can't help yourself is an excuse. You can, and you must!

Don't expect her to want to go anywhere with you for a while, including MC. She will avoid you b/c she doesn't want to have a R talk every time.