I snorted in my coffee at this exchange. My exchanges aren't quite as surreal but they are getting there. We had a great one about New York recently that had me crossing and uncrossing my eyes.
But you know, I think they want us to tell them it is all OK, that they aren't such bad guys after all. This will save them having to face their demons. Although I think any exchange with a 'demon' would leave the demon needing a neck rub.
Soooo, he forgot/failed to phone, and your 'forgetting' he said he would do this means you are losing it. Where precisely does this leave him in the logic loop?
B, How is your son doing? I'm glad to see that you and your friend are taking it one step at a time. As for your xh....I just shake my head. After all of this time and he's still floating around. He cant' seem to let you go and maybe he senses that you have dropped the rope and he still needs that one tiny thread of connection to his past to get his fix. Whatever it is, he can't cut it yet.
Please take care of yourself and may the man upstairs watch over you and your son.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.