I know that I could be wrong, but I really think that W just came up with that as a reason to call. ---- Anyway, after discussing the 'legal issue', W apparently wanted to keep talking. She talked my ear off about her jobs, her new place, SS, etc.
It was a very similar conversation to the one that we had last Thursday. W acted like she just wanted to talk and talk.... I mostly just listened.
1) SS is 'furious' with her for making him change schools by moving,
BTW, THIS^^^ is no small thing. It's a very traumatic thing for a kid that age. I vowed to keep our kids in one place for high school...after all the military moves, it was the least we could do. I went thru a lot to achieve this, as I ended up a single parent for 2 of those years
but it mattered A LOT to my daughters. Through out the MLC nightmare, I'd ask the girls their biggest fear (asked in private). They each said "moving again". So the T I was seeing told me to stress the things that would NOT change if a divorce happened (since the girls asked) and Not moving was a Big one. A really big one.
You know...There's a reason YOU and I can still go to our high school reunions Denver, even after so many years. Half my fb friends have known me since I was 14...whereas h grew up in the military so he moved a lot in high school too. He knew 6 people at his reunion last month. Think about that.
You and I went to one school for long enough to form strong friendships, and those high school times are such formative years. DO NOT gloss over this loss, AND do Not underestimate the potential for deep resentment on the part of SS....
My bet is that he'll do some MAJOR acting up soon, and it won't pass quickly.
HUGE mistake of hers, no matter what happens to you two..
I feel for your SS big time...just my .02
2) She struggling financially
3) Her new place has lots of issues - W said that she was having to adjust to having an older place when she has been used to having a large brand new house with new appliances etc.
4) Her new place has lots of bugs and spiders... she hates all types of insects... she laughed when telling me about this, but I think it is bothering her.
I may have read this incorrectly, but I really think that W sounded a bit nervous while talking to me tonight. She started the convo out by asking me, 'is it okay if I ask you?'
There was definitely none of the anger in W's voice that I have had to put up with most of the past 6 months. For my part, I was very friendly with W during this conversation even though I mostly listened.
When we got off of the phone, I looked to see how long we had talked. We were on the phone for 35 minutes. No R talk... No talk of OPs... OMG...is this a glimpse??
As with the contact on Thursday and Friday, this leaves me wondering what is going through my W's head.
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If you were anyone else, we'd all be saying Hurrah!! A big baby step. She initiated and neither of you blew it and it went well....In anyone else's case this is unmitigated GOOD NEWS...
So why can't that be the reaction? What's stopping THIS^^^ from being a good thing?
More of a reply from me will come later.
I just wanted to quickly note this post and how unreactive you were...in SOME ways, that's great. After all, You are not over reading into things, You're not leaping ahead to move her furniture into your place, etc...
but in some ways...wth?? ...Why must you act as if this is a confusing event, when it's simply a positive one? Geez...
I wonder if it's You who is waiting for "lightning to strike" so You can finally be certain & trust and "know"...
She's not the only one looking for signs of safety and guarantees... Know what I mean?
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