To DB, or not to DB, that is the question.

[jbnati]

Anyway, I feel a bit pathetic for being so negative and wasting my afternoon writing my H a letter, but I didn't get much sleep so that probably explains it. Got to love that rollercoaster.

Don't think about yourself as pathetic at all for writing your H a letter! Sometimes, at the very least it can be helpful for YOU. Yep - lack of sleep can always have a hand in this, too.

But I have to take responsibility for my choices and for my mistakes, or perhaps for what turned out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I fully own that I have contributed to this sitch due to my fears.

You do have to own your part in it. We've all contributed to our situations, but it's not all us either.

As for his family pattern, I'm not sure I can be the one to break it. I think that might be his decision.

I do agree with you. It does need to be set in motion somehow. It's really not your responsibility. However, you can't live with this cycle either. It's no way to live.

I think I will tweak the letter before (or if) I decide to post it. I need to summarize because...um...not that anyone would have noticed... but I tend to babble on a tad too much sometimes.

With that being said, if you do end up writing him a letter, you may need to summarize it for him, too - essentially keep it simple. Unless you can incorporate the smilies from here in your letter. (I have noticed it looks like you like them on here - it's OK by me because I like them, too)