(((E)))) I am sorry you're going through this today. I think it's part of the roller coaster unfortunately.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
Many of the things my H has said to me lately have been weighing heavily on my mind.
Remember, he's the one that's miserable. That doesn't mean you have to be.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
I wrote him an email letting him know that I have accepted his statement that this M is hopeless and that I can no longer be in a marriage that is always being threatened with D.
Only you know for sure, but I'm not so sure you're drinking his Kool-Aid that the M is hopeless. Also, it's a good step to write the letter and hang on to it - for YOU. I've seen some other folks run letters by the message board, too - maybe that's a consideration. I think it's reasonable to not want to be in a M that is constantly threatened by D.
Originally Posted By: Endeavour
I was thinking today that this is what he knows. His parents did this back and forth thing for 16 years after they first separated, and his Dad put his Mom through emotional hell.
It sounds to me like you've hit on a root cause here. If you can find a way to break the cycle, that sounds like it would be key to getting your M where it needs to be.
