I'm Far from perfect

[25yearsmlc]

I do harbor too many criticisms of her, you are correct. I wont go into too much detail, but I used to not help at all. Her standards used to be higher than mine but she blames me for making hers lower. I do need to lower what I think she can do based on being pregnant.

She doesn’t work though, well kind of but it’s a job she is working on starting to make money on her own. I have been cleaning up the house each night after she leaves so she can start fresh with the kids in the morning. Even vacuuming and I never ever vacuum lol


Yes it’s a lose discussion for me for sure. And will push her closer to him and further from me. Just hard finding out your wife didn’t feel safe seeing me on her birthday, then seeing him and at a place I have always taken her.
I sent her a text saying nothing significant. Hopefully not repeating mistakes… lol

2 questions for you, and I honestly don't mean to quibble here, but I'm curious.

Why do you post "lol" in the places you posted above^^ here? Were you making a joke? What's the joke?

OR
Are you undermining what you just said by following it with "lol", or highlighting it, or what? IOW, What's it mean?


2nd, your other comments are highlighted in the hopes you can see the controlling and critical pattern of yours.

BTW--She IS working. She is trying to start a business. That's called work, to most people. Don't put it down or make light of it. It's disrespectful, (as are nearly all of your comments about her housework.)
And that will get you nowhere fast. Ever wonder how OM treats her?

I don't want you to go nuts with that question

but just ask yourself if there aren't a bunch of reasons your w felt so unloved.

Being criticized feels a lot like being disliked and disrepected. It hurts.

So next time you want to make a remark about what she didn't do right or enough of, (especially things you never did yourself before now...)

you might want to ask if it's worth losing your w and family for.

Mostly, it's not.

Just my .02