Does it matter if what his W is saying is accurate or not?
I don't think so.
You are in the middle of a D, both families know both families have taken sides it is what families do.
Will it distract from the overall event? I think so.
Since she is leaving the door open and it is your choice to walk through it or not then I would choose not to.
It adds no value to your healing and even though our sentimental brain or our fear will want us to go in the end the emotional damage that will be caused to you will not be worth it.
I have a D as you know KM and they are smarter than we think.
In the end the decision will be yours of course but if it were me, I would see no reason to go, as for your family. They are grown ups and can make up their own minds.
At this point there are only a few questions you should be asking yourself
1. Does going affect me or help me?
2. Can my D's needs be met even if I don't attend?
3. Will going get me closer to where I want and need to be?
