Just Be 2

[MHL]

Now how frustrated are you guys with me??

I am booking a flight out there now to come smack some sense into you

Denver, you are saying it, you know it, and you are almost doing it.......

You want it to feel right too............sorry, doesn't work that way.

Well actually it does when you are really done.........

And that is where you are headed.......you will reach a point that you are just absolutely

tired of trying,
tired of being in pain,
tired of waiting,
tired of putting your life on hold

and then you will feel it but then what is the point then?????

That post I made to you the other day about when it clicked for me.........the first time I really DB'd, I could clearly see what it was that I needed to do.

Do you know what else.......I kinda of felt it also.

There is this thing called "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy"....

in a nutshell it is the concept that you can affect your feelings through your actions and thoughts.

If you are sad and you smile then you start to feel happy after awhile, it is the whole premise behing GAL.

Well, try what we are saying, you may find that the feeling you get may surprise you.

I get your fear of coming across like the old Denver.

That is the purpose of the statement telling her that it hurts and that is the reason for no casual contact.

The way that you communicate to her will let her know that it is coming from a place of LOVE and not retribution or anger.

Letting her experience the consequences of her decisions is the most "loving" thing you can do for her.

There is no doubt that everyone here loves their spouses.......we all need to learn to LOVE our spouses differently.

We have to LOVE them for their benefit not ours.

That is why you don't feel right about doing what we are suggesting.........

Your Love for your W is rooted in how YOU feel when you are LOVING her.

Where is Gritter when you need him?????

I hope some of this is making some sense.

Cheers