My feelings are changing...sitch isn't

[AntoniaB]

Wow, she's a piece of work. My XH never spewed this amount of venom once I started to walk away. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

But you acted beautifully in saying no to lunch and then later in turning your phone off.

My 2 cents? These people have such low self-esteem and feel so badly about themselves that they deliberately do the push and pull because they want you to pursue. You pursue, you engage in her conversation, then she can turn around and destroy you again because that makes her feel she has power and control when in her own mind she's losing it and has been for some time. It's classic narcissistic behavior.

Sure she doesn't act like she has low self-esteem, but my entire life, those people who came off to me as the most pushy and confident and high self-esteem were actually suffering inside from severe inferiority complexes. Superiority masking inferiority as over-compensation. MLC people always exhibit this trait.

I think what you're seeing is how much more PEACEFUL you are day to day if she is NOT involved in your life right now, and the more you see that peace, the more you will find it easier to disengage from her and create boundaries.

You're making progress :-)