I'm Far from perfect

[25yearsmlc]

so bit of a set back. but have not told her i know yet. found a receipt from her birthday on Aug 1st. to her favorite restaraunt. this was a day she would not hang out with me and told me she needed to be alone. aug 1st. basically baby daddy took her out that day and she didnt tell me.

big blow cause i thought she was being honest about when she see's him. he left the receipt in her car in pretty plain sight, and ive been driving her car last few days.

it hurts she went with him to the place i always took her for her birthday, and it explains why she didnt want to go there when i took her out a few nights ago.

and while she didnt lie to me per say, she was not honest about her contact with him, and so now i wonder when else she has seen him and not told me.

Maybe she thought you'd over react to the information, as you do so often. And when that happens, it creates the "need to lie" in the spouse,

and then the one with the wacky temper (that would be YOU) wonders why they don't get honesty back...

My guess is that she knows you can't handle this information.

She has NOT decided if she can tolerate your frequent temper problems and your controlling nature.

You still harbor many criticisms here about her. You mention that you are deciding IF YOU can tolerate her less than perfect housekeeping. What??

You also admit that they are YOUR kids making the mess (while she watches them) but you want HER to do the housework (and YOU have NOT helped in the past!!!)

yet you are the one with housekeeping standards higher than hers, but you are basically you are dumping your expectations on HER, without you helping...it's a lose lose for her.

And btw, she's pretty pregnant...remember? So for you to expect much childcare from her AND housework...is a set up for failure.
And she's got a job too? That's a lot for any woman to deal with.

Just do the housework yourself and be grateful she's giving your presence a chance. Those would be 180s of significance.



and if i should even ask her about it, im sure she will turn it on me for somehow snooping, but i feel like a level of trust has just been broken and now i dont know what i can trust her about

Leave it alone. She never said she was done with OM. She never said you were in piecing.

You KNOW you will push her into his arms by arguing about this.

Why would you even consider doing that? This is like the armed robbery example your t mentioned, again...

learning from past mistakes means NOT REPEATING them...